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Pre-marital counselling to fight rising divorces
Hanoi (VNA) - A sharp increase in divorce cases across the country has raised the need for young couples to gain from pre-marital counselling so that they can be better prepared for their life with their partners and maintain a strong family unit, said experts.
Results revealed late last month from an investigation conducted between 2000 to 2005 by the former Committee for Population, Family and Children, the Ministry of Culture, Sport and Tourism, the General Statistics Office and the United Nations Children's Fund (UNICEF) amply demonstrate the risein divorce rates in the past 10 years.
About 22,000 divorce cases were reported in 1994. That number rose by more than 50 percent in 1998 to 48,000 cases. The figures in 2001 and 2005increased to 52,000 and 65,929 respectively.
"The increase in divorce in recent years has raised a host of problems for families, especially children," said Huynh Vinh Ai, Deputy Minister ofCulture, Sports and Tourism.
One of the oft-cited reasons for the rise in divorce is the lack of any education or counselling on the challenges of married life. Couples have been known to go into marriage not knowing what to expect, and not knowinghow to deal with the unexpected.
"When husbands or wives put themselves higher than the other's needs, they can not listen and sympathise [to each other]. That widens the gap in their differences," said Nguyen Huu Minh, director of the Institute for Family andGender.
Classes have been organised for those planning on getting married in which they can benefit by learning necessary skills that will help themcommunicate better with their spouses and create healthier families.
However, opinions on attending the class have largely varied.
"I don't think I need to go to the classes. My boyfriend and I get on well and I think that will remain when we get married," said Do Le Ngoc Anh fromHanoi .
"And since I manage my relationships with my friends and family well, I am sure I will be fine with my future in-laws." This sentiment is shared by many others, especially those busy with theircareers.
"I just don't have the time to participate in this kind of class. While I appreciate the reason behind its creation, it's not on my list of priorities," said Nguyen Cam Giang, a resident in Giang Vo Street inHanoi .
However, awareness on marital relations and responsibilities must play an important role for couples, especially if so many of them are lacking in "cooperation" and "negotiation" skills, said Le Do Ngoc, head of theDepartment for Family under the Ministry of Culture, Sport and Tourism.
"A lack of awareness on skills needed to make a marriage work poses a threat to the Vietnamese family unit, especially when couples are so caught up intheir careers and seem to have little time for each other," said Ngoc.
The report's findings show that the divorce rate is highest in the southeast and Mekong Delta area at about four percent and lowest in the northwest partof the country, at one percent.
The number of years couples (aged between 18 and 60) lived together before getting a divorce was a rather low 8 years.-Enditem
Results revealed late last month from an investigation conducted between 2000 to 2005 by the former Committee for Population, Family and Children, the Ministry of Culture, Sport and Tourism, the General Statistics Office and the United Nations Children's Fund (UNICEF) amply demonstrate the risein divorce rates in the past 10 years.
About 22,000 divorce cases were reported in 1994. That number rose by more than 50 percent in 1998 to 48,000 cases. The figures in 2001 and 2005increased to 52,000 and 65,929 respectively.
"The increase in divorce in recent years has raised a host of problems for families, especially children," said Huynh Vinh Ai, Deputy Minister ofCulture, Sports and Tourism.
One of the oft-cited reasons for the rise in divorce is the lack of any education or counselling on the challenges of married life. Couples have been known to go into marriage not knowing what to expect, and not knowinghow to deal with the unexpected.
"When husbands or wives put themselves higher than the other's needs, they can not listen and sympathise [to each other]. That widens the gap in their differences," said Nguyen Huu Minh, director of the Institute for Family andGender.
Classes have been organised for those planning on getting married in which they can benefit by learning necessary skills that will help themcommunicate better with their spouses and create healthier families.
However, opinions on attending the class have largely varied.
"I don't think I need to go to the classes. My boyfriend and I get on well and I think that will remain when we get married," said Do Le Ngoc Anh fromHanoi .
"And since I manage my relationships with my friends and family well, I am sure I will be fine with my future in-laws." This sentiment is shared by many others, especially those busy with theircareers.
"I just don't have the time to participate in this kind of class. While I appreciate the reason behind its creation, it's not on my list of priorities," said Nguyen Cam Giang, a resident in Giang Vo Street inHanoi .
However, awareness on marital relations and responsibilities must play an important role for couples, especially if so many of them are lacking in "cooperation" and "negotiation" skills, said Le Do Ngoc, head of theDepartment for Family under the Ministry of Culture, Sport and Tourism.
"A lack of awareness on skills needed to make a marriage work poses a threat to the Vietnamese family unit, especially when couples are so caught up intheir careers and seem to have little time for each other," said Ngoc.
The report's findings show that the divorce rate is highest in the southeast and Mekong Delta area at about four percent and lowest in the northwest partof the country, at one percent.
The number of years couples (aged between 18 and 60) lived together before getting a divorce was a rather low 8 years.-Enditem
